Having to cater to both of these personalities can be really difficult! Making decisions is a constant struggle, because I often can't satisfy them both. Recently, I've been trying to decide what I want to do after I graduate. Looking at the big picture, the type of job I want is pretty specific. In my Grace state of mind I think, "Go to New York. That is where you'll find the most opportunities and the biggest job market in your field." But then Frankie chimes in: "But it's the North and there's winter and it's cold and there's no beach."
Like, obviously Grace's idea makes much more sense and is in charge of my logic system. She focuses on the best options and what will make me successful. But then Frankie is the center of my happiness. She knows that even though something makes more sense, it's not necessarily going to make me happy.
I know it sounds like it, but I promise I'm not schizophrenic. I'm simply excited about this metaphor that finally has allowed me to explain what it's like to have two very different parts of yourself and also helps me understand why I often feel conflicted. I can now more easily assess each part to my argument and decide whether to listen to one or compromise with both.
I guess the moral of this story is that if you find yourself having a crisis and can't understand why, just break it down!